Letters To Myself


Why was I born a woman? It is so damn challenging. Men chasing you like bloodhounds from every possible direction. Looking at you as if you were an object, treating you like one. I am so frustrated. It’s so harsh to know that your gender poses as such severe a problem. Makes me hate all men in general. I am in such a trouble. I am like hooked up. Can’t do anything. Such a pain to be looked down upon, knowing that you are almost equally capable. Being treated like dust, it’s so inferior. When they make you feel like one piece of shit, incompetent, which has been created just to entertain men. It’s like a heartache. Pathetic. Being sidelined in everything you do as a group. Can nothing alter this kind of a sick mentality that men foster? When it comes to interacting with the other gender, many educated men behave like illiterate know-nothings. Just because we use our hearts as much we use our brains, we can’t be taken for granted. Let me pardon all men for being on-your-face flirts, and over -sexed animals, even then I find it unbearable to accept them for the way they behave, as if we have no hearts, we do not hear those absurd whistles, vulgar comments, those I-will-eat-you-up stares. To add to my woes, women are a minority. If they luckily don’t die before they are born, there are butchers sitting right here, to torture them, mentally and physically throughout their entire lives. There is such an acute dearth of good men. Oh! That’s so much like an oxymoron. Do you always have to please a man to rise higher, become better? Succumb to his flirtatious tricks or become a booze buddy? Can’t I continue the way I am? Clear & straight, and as a woman?

19 comments:

wacko said...

am flabbergasted to say the least! i wouldnt say much but i would prolly agree with you..men are dickheads..not all but most of em aight! not that am being a braggart here, but I feel I know how it really is! this is a cruel world and we just have to be smart errr.. selfish or iniquitous enough to survive in it..

women are bein treated the same everywhere in india...some jerks wouldnt understand the very fact..nothing can be done about it...but anyways i liked ur post! and am blogrolling you

thanks!

Standbymind said...

Now this is really Profound.
I cant help myself agreeing with you on this. It is so true. over sexed ..yes...they tend to use their little head a lot..Women are diminishing everyday..Society is not doing anything..There is one thing Men always fail to realize..that they are nothing without them..Nothing!

Tapas Mohanty said...

Why do you love taking it out on boys?Isn't it a bit cynical of you?Stereotyping is natural but ...There are boys who know what feelings mean,there are men who know how to respect men...You think its "bad luck" being born as a girl,but I think its "bad luck" to be born as a boy coz each and evry boy is just "categorised" as someone who is flirtatious,emotional blackmailer,unemotional,stone hearted,rude and last but not the least "dog"...Dont mind but its my duty as a boy to defend my class
;-)

shubha said...

all that u said is oh-so-true...it gets extremely frustrating...i see gals around me bein taken for a ride everyday, and any single gal is "available"...the attitude is disgusting to say the least...a lil more sensitive behaviour would help...but that's somethin they never develop!!!!

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annie said...

A subject that i feel strongly about. I liked the way you gave shape to this post of yours.Oh these Men- The Self proclaimed Gods on earth! Less said the better..When most we come across value sexuality more than goodness then we cant help wonderin that men species is like that. Can we? Agreed all men are not like that but most men are & thatz a fair share. Pity..

kaylee said...

cant agree more :P

Anonymous said...

Its a good post. I can agree with most of your comments on the kind of men who treat women as the way you have described. I believe that they should be castrated!!
The problem also is with society that wants to categories women as objects - watch the ads, music videos or movies. Its all there! It just adds fuel to such acts and lets these louts think that they are justified in misbehaving with women. Humans were created equal - race, religion and sex! Its the society that teaches you to discriminate. How much you listen and accept that opinion is up to you. Look, I dont know where you are coming from to have such hatred for men as such! I dont think my saying anything is going to change your opinion of men either, but have a think of this - you are being discriminating as well. Not all women are angels.

phoenix said...

AWESOME POST!!could have been better expressed

bravo!
*pats your back!*

hope said...

great post..

Kunjal said...

Looks as you poured a women's heart!!

wildflower said...

Dear Men & Women

* I am not any MAN-HATER.
And this is not how i normally feel. this was the outcome of some bad day i had some time, and i don't even remember the guy who had complelled me to write this...

And there definitely some men i admire like hell, men who are worth all that appreciation, men who whatdoisay are a little in touch with their feminine sides get extra points :D, err.. softer men , men who feel & understand & GENUINELY RESPECT WO!MEn

* AndI am very much aware that all women are not angels

relations said...

hey..

well there is a silver lining then.. you are not one of those species..

................your's entirely said...

got nothing to say....it's kind of a generalised conception of women nowadays....makes me feel disheartened coz a many a men have the utmost respect for women....hope that u understand

wildflower said...

@ relations
well yeah, i am not one of that species...nevertheless i am a Tough girl :P..M such a critic u see!

@ ....your's entirely
there definitely are men i admire( i have confessed this earlier)& these are 'seasoned' men! you need a woman to season a man i guess...& am wondering who seasoned ya....

& here is something i would like to share...

"Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes and it's our(the woman's) job to stomp them, and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you would like to have dinner with"

As human beings, women deserve better things...life becomes a little more tough if you are female...you have to become thrice as good as a man to overshadow him..pathetic! besides all this, we ask for a lil dignity, some respect...People, please bestow this on us, generously!

Priya said...

Hmmm..seems like you met one...I remember outpouring the same way in one of my posts named'Disillusioned'.

Remember 'The difficulties in life intend to make us 'Better' not 'Bitter'...Though I understand that it's easier said than done!

Hug.

Amrita Sabat said...

dis is wild wildflower. u hav burst out here. nobody can make u feel disillusioned or frustrated until u allow dem to.

Sadly u hv succumbed to allowing urself 2 get utterly frustrated by som ill-existing creatures who sadly happened to be men. put gender apart- der r wolves all around- be dey women or men.
hw abt women killin women in d womb? or jst born? well dats an xtreme case, but all men r nt bad. & 1 gem of a man is wat single women lik u & me shd trust God for, to bestow upon us in our lives, to grow old with. Rest all whichever man is however hardly shd bother us. Dat's all. Amen.

wildflower said...

'One gem of a man is wat single women lik u & me shd trust God for, to bestow upon us in our lives, to grow old with. '

So Be It
So Be It
So Be It

Amen!

& this post dint refer to all men...I seriosly dun think so about all men...I am not a man hater...this was a wild burst of feelings...(some day i was pissed off) felt better after i wrote it down...

arvind said...

ho my god..
hi..
sorry - if me too behaved in bad..
(me always try to avoid - but it came so natural.. me try for better behaviour - atleast for you)

u r always a beautiful woman - who is having her own thoughts and ideas..