knot for me!



Every small step feels like a giant leap. And honestly, I want it to feel like one. We should be careful when our hearts are busy trying to bond irrespective of everything else. You have a past I suppose, and I have many pasts. Forgetting takes time. And we need that time. Let's not be that fast that it takes my breath away. Everything is at stake, you know. Though its hard, but we can give a shot at being as sane as possible. My experiences have made me into a cynic, big time. And though I understand, how you want me to respond, it's difficult for me to shed that defensive garb that I have shrouded myself in for all these years  of seasoned solitude. And I think the same applies to you too. Come on! I don't even know you enough to comment on that. It will look ridiculous if we get serious about something that would look so silly later.


Recently, one couple I loved and respected for long, chose to split. For one minute I gaped in surprise. Then I gained my poise and wondered if that wasn't exactly obvious, something that should happen, only oftener. Marriage being the epitome of all compromises, every time a marriage works out shouldn't I gape in surprise rather than when it breaks? 

25 comments:

Vagabond said...

i always gape wit awe at relationships that work seamlessly, effortlessly.
i am awestruck by romance fresh even after a 20 years of marriage.
i am awestruck by relationships that last in-spite of all the mush and love in excess...they never wear out.

glad i am not the only one...

=D nice post as usual...
marriage on the cards eh??

arvind said...

me read in some where else:

fight, teases will make a relation more bound than excess love!..
(me may comment again - after reading ur words again!)

jyothy karat said...

You have such great content and a beautiful site!

wildflower said...

@ Vagabond
thnks girl :)
& LoL!!

@ arvind
so u dint read my words again..? :P

@ jyothi
o goddess of photography, honored 2 hv u here :)

Girish said...

Nice choice of words!
I believe every relationship that works is an effort. With marriage, u are willing to take that effort cos there's something more at stake.
With a relationship with no knot, there is no impetus enough to try to resolve.
Walking away is always easier (cos u know pain heals with time) and so we part ways.

arvind said...

u always excellent - when u pen down ur feelings..

but that is life..

what a small heart would feel except run away..

let it be a begining and not the end..

in the world lot of sweet hearted gals are there - like this writer..

$uch! said...

knot for you :P

wildflower said...

@ Girish
thnks :)
d effort part makes it luk a lil repulsive at times..

@ arvind
thnks :P but m kinda allergic to sweet things..

@ S
like you din know that :P

SammY said...

Defensive and Seasoned U Really Are!!!!!!!!!! I mean the write up!!!!! Nice work!!!!!!!!

wildflower said...

thnks Sam, I have been just fine..hwz yu?

SammY said...

Am jus doin guud,.. visitin ur blog afta while :) ,.. U shud be writin books or songs u kno :)

SammY said...

Wat u do other than writin??!!

wildflower said...

nthin much.. mba :|

SammY said...

MMmmm guud,.. Okii,.. So,..,.. Yea,.. U din ansa me,.. wat is it dat fails u,. if u don mind,.. i mean,. i cud relate to things u write n am a guy,.. dat confuses :)

wildflower said...

my obsessions fail me, lately that has changed for the better..

SammY said...

Thers dis interview that i read,.. it was wit James hetfiled,.. my fav lyricist n frontman,.. he was asked if he was happy n he said yea better than ever,.. n then he was asked y he still writes on death n sadness n stufff wen he s still happy,.. he said,.. it jus feels right writin abt it.,.. i believ dis is also an obsession ppl force on themselves,.. i dono y i say dis,..

wildflower said...

then please clarify, what's making you write this

arvind said...

@sam - sam thats easy -
"death is the one side of the coin.. love is the other side.."

try to relate..
(me read it somewhere else..poor memory!)

@ wild - at the teen age - obessity means "growth"

arvind said...

the earth has its own secret lover.. (me may write abt it some other time..)

feel - "knot for me" in the prospective sense means.. means..

arvind said...

And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.. (some words of kalil gibran)

(¯`•._.•[Raajii]•._.•´¯) said...

good one but sometimes I think we should take a chance at being silly. I am being silly these days. lets see how it turns out. :-)

wildflower said...

glad u're doin that Raaji.. hope it brings you only the best :)

arvind said...

feel - "knot for me" in the prospective sense means - she is going to be engaged..

(me dame sure!)

Anonymous said...

Thats the decision u need to take....

Try to do a What-if or scenario analysis if u still cannot decide....

Use probability theory and toss a coin instead!!!!

wildflower said...

Seriously dude, go sleep!