Every relationship has a life of its own. Things start not working after that. There necessarily is no specific reason. Or any big fight that puts the final full stop. There always could be a series of small tussles, revealing the actual incompatibility of the persons involved. Superficiality just doesn’t take you a long way. Just that feelings do not contain the warmth they contained earlier. Two people can’t stay in any kind of a relationship with each other forever. It’s not the ‘love’ thing I am talking about. I am stressing on plain and platonic friendships.
All music stops sounding sweet. All of a sudden, your nice friend of a couple of months starts having priorities more important than giving you the customary daily call, a howyadoin sms. It’s a something in which none of the warring parties take an active part in; even then they are silently responsible. They call it off without consciously being aware of their actions. And all of sudden one day, they realize that the once vibrant rapport, has stopped buzzing. It occurs to them that they are giving a last try to revive the erstwhile charm of their bond. This kind of a break-off is so poisonously passive, and involuntary. Looks like it happens by de-fault.
And I don’t know why this happens. But I have seen this happen. I guess it’s a part of being human. And that people actually do get bored of people. And look out for something new. Just for a change. Life takes its own course. I am sure many of you wouldn’t agree. But this is just what I feel…
16 comments:
I couldnt agree more great anayalais(spelling)....
I agree...
the solution lies in keeping your expectations not too high... or in calvin's words "the secret is to lower your expectations to the point where they’re already met" :D
its so ironical that u can't keep xpctatns in a relatnshp that u live 4 da most....
hey...i couldn't agree more...
but u know if u look closely enough...then there are always tell tale signs long b4 the friendship actually looses its vitality completely...
and sometimes...if u catch it on time...u can salvage it...even if not repair the damage already done..
I wont say i agree... but it is true definitely that this happens.. perhaps a lot!.. but you know if one of the people involved stands up for the relationship it will survive.. (i think i have heard this somewhere.. :P "scrubs" probably)
but good point!
but it hurts like hell when someone gets bored of u before u get bored of them :(
@ kaylee
m a dumb brain! dint get the anayalais thing :D
@ krishna
"the secret is to lower your expectations to the point where they’re already met" CAN'T AGREE MORE! It does work!
@ sach
mmm...that's like life :)
@ vitruvian
M bored till such an extent that i dun wanna revive it anymore :P LoL
@ Ankit
he he!
@ zee
Perfectly the truth!
i AGREEE!
and I just loved when u put it the wat---
" by de-fault..."
Quite a realistic take. I could relate to it.
Read some of your posts.. and liked what they say 'the feel' of your bog.
@ Lad & vik
thanxx
familiarity breeds contempt eh? makes sense. then again, what are family relations but friendships fostered over a lifetime. is contempt an element in the relationships. sometimes, but it coexists with dependence, affection, even love (difficult word that).
the spark doesnt burn bright like in the movies, but something keeps you together still.
*these
@ pankaj
but then there are certain relationships that you can do without...and the contempt could lead to break-offs!
and thanx for this wonderful comment :)
Been thinking of relationships too..but the 'once good friends and then lost touch and now not really bothered ' category..Been thinking..how people who were once buddies can not bother too much after a few years of separation..hmm..
i agree though..people change..friends change too...
basically we are a selfish bunch of animals u know...we change with time...deep friendship is replaced by indifference ....oh! such a pain...
I totally agree.... but its an art to keep it reigned by our senses!!!
wel well written as ever!!! way to go!!!
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